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Stones

Stones
“You are so stupid!” A stone. “Can’t you do anything right?” A stone. “You are worthless!” A stone. “Why do I even put up with you?” A stone. “You should never have been born!” A stone. “You will never amount to anything!” A stone. "You're ugly!" A stone. "You're fat!" A stone. "You're a failure!" A stone.

One day, she looked up and saw the smallest sliver of sky, piercing the darkness beneath the walls of gray stone that had been built around her. She removed one stone. Then she removed another. And another. And another. Until she had a road paved with the stones she’d removed. She walked down the road and never looked back.
(c) Copyright Kris Biffle Rudin 2018
(An earlier version of this story appeared on my personal blog, in 2015)

Who Am I? A Brief Introduction

I realize that not everyone following this page knows me in real life - which is a good thing! I want to reach more than my friends with this page. So I thought I'd better let people know who I am, and why I am managing a life coaching/inspirational site and Facebook page.

From my earliest years, I considered myself an athlete. I don't remember a time when sports of all kinds were not a part of my life, even in grade school. And since I was in grade school in the 1960's (yeah, I'm old) that wasn't easy to do when you're a girl! The only school sport I could do was track. They had no basketball for girls, no soccer, and certainly no football! I had to play those sports outside of school, with the neighborhood boys. During the summer, though, there was tennis and softball through the Parks and Recreation program, and I gladly participated in those. In junior high we did get to play basketball - finally - but the main sports I did were track and cross-country. By …

Gratitude Challenge

This past fall, I was in a rather significant depressive episode, brought on by the worsening of my chronic illness due to a minor car accident. I lost all the progress I had made in the previous year, and was actually at my worst state in 14 years of illness. I was sad, angry, and hopeless. Thankfully, I've been on an antidepressant for several years, and I see a psychologist regularly, so I had some good tools in my mental health toolbox to help me through this period.

But this time, I tried something new, something I'd read about but never put into practice. And it's really quite simple: at the end of the day, write down three things for which you are grateful. That's it. And you know what? I really enjoyed doing it! It was a challenge to find not just one or two, but three things that I was grateful for on any given day. Doing this practice helped me realize that even though my current physical state really sucked, I still had good things in my life. Some days thes…

Acceptance Doesn't Mean Giving Up

I think one of the hardest things in life is learning to accept things as they are, instead of moaning about them and feeling frustrated because "This shouldn't have happened to me!" And then also learning that acceptance doesn't mean giving up. Let me give you an example from my own life.

All my life, I was an athlete, competing in any sport that I could. I honestly don't remember a time when I didn't consider myself an athlete. I competed in all the sports I could find during school and college. After leaving college, I continued to compete in a variety of sports, and working out daily was just part of my life. But then, at age 47, I was struck down by an illness that took all of that away. And by age 56 I was totally disabled and unable to work, and can now barely take care of myself. It was a huge blow to what I had hoped and planned for my life, and it was certainly unfair that it happened! I mean, I was super healthy, ate right, didn't smoke, didn&#…

Welcome!

Welcome, one and all, to a place where you can find encouragement, inspiration, and maybe a little hope, no matter what you're facing in life. I have faced many trials, and have learned many lessons - some the hard way - and I want to share what I've learned with others who may be going through tough times. You may be facing health issues, financial woes, the loss of a loved one, or any other challenges. The lessons I've learned can be applied to any type of challenge. Sometimes all we need is for someone to say, "You can do this!" My hope is for this blog to help you in whatever you may be facing.